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Monday, March 03, 2008

Women & the relationships that we have or better yet, the lack thereof....


I got to thinking about Women and the relationships that we have or better yet, the lack thereof. I am one of those women that don't particularly like other women that I don't know and are extremely cautious of the ones I do know. There seems to be a striking difference between the relationships that men have with other men and the ones that women have with women. Men seem to hold their friendships with other men much longer than women do. I have never seen a man get "jealous" of another man.
The movie "mean girls" really sums up in the most honest way about the female to female relationships. In all honestly, I don't for a minute believe that even the best of friends do not have a tendency to want to, or will screw another women over had they the chance.
It just seems to be in their make-up and hormones. Sexist? maybe, but true.







Look at Young Hollywood, girls that pretty much all have the same things, and yet they can't seem to play nice with each other, usually like the rest of us , the feuds happen over some guy, or something they "think" was said. That's the thing with women and the other big difference over men, Women run their mouths, about everything. They never shut the hell up. And a lesson I learned a long time ago is if someone is talking crap to you about someone else, they are doing the same thing to you.
I try not to get involved in other women's "stuff", it bores me and I try and stay above it. yet, I do find myself , surprisingly just as bitchy as the rest.
Perhaps it comes from years of being screwed over by many women I thought were friends when I believed I was loyal to them . I quickly found out all the things they really thought about me, despite being in the most popular cliques in high school and collage. Isn;t it funny that you always seem to find out at some point what was said? It may take months, weeks , even a year, but it can still manage to run your whole day.
Now, I know this all sounds like I am bitter and writing out about bad experiences that happened to me that made me feel this way, and maybe some of it is, but essentially its really about "mean girls". Even women I don't know, whom I randomly bump into at the supermarket with a cart and turn around in a snit mumbling "bitch" under their breath, even before I could get out an "excuse me".
I had an experience with a women who is married to a friend of my boyfriend, whom wasted no time in telling me of "his" past. I could see the sadistic pleasure she was getting in telling me these things, and of course gave me the classic "please don't say I said anything". And I never did. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of running back to my boyfriend and "confronting" him with what she said. It was more worth it to let her stew on it and wonder than me taking her anticipated action.
What really came of this is a dislike of a women that at first I thought was alright. I vowed I would forgive her but I would not forget her, and I did, until last weekend when I had to see her again at a party. She approached me with the same ole "fake" act , which gave me the moment I wanted . To completely blow her off, and when I did, she immediately switched to this narrowed eyed bitch, her true self. Its amazing that women can do that so easily, myself included. I don't like it, but it happens.



Maybe bitchiness is the "in" thing now among women. There is a constant battle within out own self's to look better, feel better, act better, thinner, and smarter than the other. There is even a running commercial of a girl on her cell to another girl, and saying "did you see what she was wearing"? Only fueling the fires of constant bitchiness to each other...to be contunued..

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